If you ask my mother (aka my bestie) to pick one thing that drives her nuts about me, I can guarantee you she will say I’m too independent. Not sure if this came from me being an only child or if it is a direct gene from my hard working/’I’ll do it myself” father, but it’s true. I am an independent soul and even though I have experienced a bit of ‘hate’ for it in the past, I have found a sense of comfort in this quality. So much so that I tattooed a homage to it on my body a few years ago.
There’s a bit of a debate on the idea of being independent. Some people will tell you it is a necessity and that you are the only person you can fall back on. Others (like my mother) will encourage you to allow others to help you get through life with their love and support. I personally don’t think that the answer is so black and white and it has been through my own experiences that I have come to this conclusion.
I recently came across this article by Adam J. Kurtz on Design Sponge about seeking and accepting help from other people. Not only did I love the artistic approach that Kurtz took on the idea, but I also love the message that it brings. Overall, Adam delivers the harsh reality that while you may be great at the things you do in life, you are only one person and you cannot be an expert at everything. As hard as this may be to accept, there are going to be times where you have to ask others for their help and guess what? It’s okay!
I know from experience that people who want to do it all themselves can carry a sense of guilt when it comes to having others take on some of their burden. Hell, I feel bad having someone buy me lunch! How silly is that? There is no shame when it comes to people helping other people out. Whether it be for work or just in life, accept that you can still be independent and amazing at the things you do, but that there are other people who are also amazing at the things they do. So, give up the areas you need to, ask those around you for help, and don’t forget to thank them for helping you make your own life that much better.
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