Gooooooood afternoon and Happy Monday! I feel like I have not done a Motivational Monday in weeks (really, it’s only been a week), so I am excited to be back and writing this one for you all. Let’s get to it!
Over the weekend I came across an article on the first step to becoming a happier person (cliché, I know). Normally when I read these types of articles I become so overwhelmed with the obvious recommendations that I can barely make it past the fourth or fifth paragraph. This one was much different though. Not only was it written by one of my favorite authors (Elizabeth Gilbert from Eat, Pray, Love), but it was also incredibly honest and there’s nothing I love more than a little brutal honesty.
One thing that really caught my eye was the article’s reference to Rumi (a poet) who approximately 800 years ago claimed ‘You must ask for what you really want.” Anyone who knows me knows that I live by this message and to know that someone was walking around Earth that long ago living by it too – that’s just too good to ignore.
For me, asking for what you want is something that has proven true in how effective it can be for a person. Whether it is trying to find something in a store, gaining clarity in a relationship, or even getting a raise at work – asking for the things you want is the truest way of obtaining them. Believe it or not, there was a time in my younger years where I would go out of my way to avoid asking any questions, even if it meant not fully comprehending something that I ought to know. As I got older I realized how ludacris it was to be walking around this Earth with a shortage of information just because I was too nervous to raise my hand and ask. Well, this shift in perspective has created some sort of monster as I am now that person who will hunt down an employee at Nine West and make them head in the back to look for my shoe size. There is literally no shame in my game.
More than getting the pair of shoes I want; asking for what you want can be impactful to all aspects of life including your relationships and your career. I have seen this with my own eyes: 6 months into a job I knew I was being heavily underpaid for my position. Sure, I knew I wouldn’t be able to waltz into my boss and demand the $10K that I wanted, but I grabbed my confidence and asked for a 6 month performance review that included consideration for an increase in compensation. A few weeks later – I was in her office receiving a 3% raise….6 months in.
This week is dedicated to knowing what you want and chasing after it. I know that they say ‘good things come to those who wait,’ but if that is true than great things must happen to those who get off their butts and make it happen!