Let me begin by saying I am ever so sorry for the late post today, but it has been one hell of a Monday. Now, let’s get to it.
Over the past week, I had a conversation with someone about how words we share with each other affect us emotionally. Some deep conversation, right? For me personally, I have always struggled understanding how we should easily accept that ‘we must forgive even though we cannot always forget.’ I mean think about it; how in the world can you ever forgive someone when you can’t forget what it is that got you to that point? Sure it sounds easy, but think about the reality of forgiving someone for something they said or did while the aftermath of those words/actions is ever so present in your mind. Not so easy (and I know it’s not just me). Needless to stay, stumbling on this Lang Leav quote made me even more curious on the topic.
I was a bit surprised when researching this topic, to see just how many people have written a book or devoted a speech to this topic. (See, I told you it wash’t just me!!) I can tell you two things: the easy part is knowing that you should forgive others for their wrong doings; the hard part is the reality that comes with that task. While we may want to, you are never able to take back the words that you say. You’re actions, once made, will become a constant reality. It is because we cannot change these events after they happen, that we all struggle to forget they ever occurred. If your spouse cheats on you, if your daughter tells you she hates you, if you physically harm someone after they upset you; all of these moments in time are stuck right there in the reality that the happened in. So, where do we go from here?
When looking at forgiveness as whole, I can guarantee you there is no easy answer. It seems that no matter what gets you to forgiveness, it will without a doubt include time and hard work. The good news? There are ways to get past the negativity that go you here. Some of the better tips I have found in my search include taking time to ‘cool off’ from the situation and if you need to, talk it out with the other person. Sometimes hearing the opposing perspective or where they were coming from will give you a better understanding of why things went down the way they did. Accept their apology (the easiest way to tackle this one is to know deep down that you aren’t so innocent yourself, girl); people make mistakes. Also, be sure to focus on the positives that come with the relationship you have with the other person. If the pos outweigh the cons, you know you have something to work towards.
I’ve decided to take these little tips with me throughout the week, so try to do the same and let’s start forgiving!Pin It