Happy Monday Loves! So this is the part where I usually apologize for posting Motivational Monday so late in the day, but let’s be honest: this happens so often you should just get used to it. What can I say? I am a professional in procrastination.
Today was actually my welcome back to Philly from my quick trip out to Las Vegas. It’s funny because gambling, to me, holds the fun equivalency of watching paint dry. However, Vegas is one of those cities in the world that has this incredible live energy to it. There’s such a diverse pool of people and there is an endless list of things to do and see; you cannot help but be slightly in awe with the city of sin. While in Vegas I did some pretty exciting things like seeing the Cirque show Zumanity, spent a morning with my bestie at the spa, oh and I got to endure a kidney stone. Seriously, so much fun…
The actual purpose of my trip to Vegas was to celebrate two friends of mine getting married. The thing is, I am not really into the whole wedding thing. I know – it’s hard to imagine a girl who can obsess over the latest Alexander Wang strappy sandal not wanting to plan out every detail to a lavish wedding, but it’s true. I literally tremble at the thought of me in a cupcake barbie dress while 400+ people that I would not recognize if I tripped over them on the street watched me say I do. So, needless to say when I walked into the 30-person wedding held in the smallest (and most stunning) garden at Caesars Palace, I was elated.
During the wedding I was listening to the officiant who was talking about marriage and how hard it is to create a sustainable marriage. The thing that stood out to me the most was how the idea of a 50/50 marriage is what causes people to fall apart. To think that if he/she does not put in their 50%, you will fall on your 50% is something that can tear a marriage (in fact, any relationship) down. Instead, what about the idea of 100/100 marriage? Just consider the concept of a 100/100 effort in any relationship you have with the people in your life at this very moment. This means that you give 100% of yourself to those that matter regardless of the percentage you are looking to receive. Sure, this seems like a ‘why do I have to do all the work’ thing, but if whoever it is you are thinking about isn’t worth all of the work, why are they there?
The reality is that people have to work incredibly hard to sustain the relationships they have with each other. Work, friends, family, significant others.. all of these relationships require really low lows and the highest of highs. So maybe giving 100% to the people that mean the most is worth it because in the end, isn’t all that work what makes it so special?Pin It