Happy Monday everyone! I actually had a pretty productive weekend that included a Cirque Du Soleil show and a really amazing opportunity with a company based in the Philadelphia area (more to come on that!). However, as productive as my Friday and Saturday were, when it came to Sunday I hit a complete brick wall. I spent most of Father’s Day just lazily hanging around my parent’s house. In my mind I was going to be going to the gym, making a trip to the local Trader Joe’s, possibly shopping for some summer attire. In reality, I was just there: butt down on a couch. By the end of the night I was pretty upset with myself and angry that I could let the whole day get away from me. That got me to thinking about mistakes and regrets. It also inspired me for today’s Motivational Monday.
I’ve always worried about making mistakes and the possibility of regret. I often find myself fearing regret more than I fear failure. The idea of wishing you hadn’t made that decision or wishing you had chose the other option, is scary. Who wants to wish that things turned out differently? However, regrets and mistakes are part of life. As I get older (or if you are asking me ego, younger) I have started to take a different view point on these things. I make a conscious effort to look at mistakes, bad decisions, and even regrets as lessons that come with life. I find that dwelling on the mistake I’ve made drives me temporarily insane and builds a lot of negative energy within me. But, when looking at the mistake as a lesson, there is more of a ‘moving forward’ notion that comes with it. So you made a bad decision…now learn from it. Sure, you can be mad and wish that you had made a different choice, but make sure you move on from that emotion. It’s important to accept that it happened and come to terms with the spot you’re in because of your decision. I believe the saying is ‘what’s done is done’ so instead of feeding into the regret, consider the options that can make the situation better. Once you have done this, make a mental note of what brought you to this moment. What you could have done differently? Finally, move on. Beating yourself up on the issue will only keep your mindset within the mistake and no good can come from that. If moving on means you need to apologize for your actions, then buck up that ego and do so. If it means returning that stunning Marc Jacobs blazer that caused your landlord to call you on a bounced check, find that receipt and do it.
There are mistakes that I have made in life that were so bad, not only did I learn from them, but now, I laugh at them. To have moved on enough that the idea of your mistake is humorous now, well that’s a good thing. I often look back at my teenage years and think ‘damn was I off on the idea of life’ but the thing is that without those moments I would have lost the experience that came with them. I’m glad I was caught in some of my faults. I’m glad I took some risks and didn’t always play it safe. Sometimes going out there and falling is what life is all about.Pin It